The Price of Peace
I am concerned about all of our peace movements. I am concerned that we are not clear in our understanding of the price we pay for peace, and what that might mean. As I continue to avail myself of tools for communication and life, I notice the patterns I have walked in for the sake of what I have called “peace.” As a person, I am very familiar with doing what it takes to keep “the peace”–passiveness and permissiveness—so that I don’t have to endure what would become uncomfortable feelings. Or the possibility of rejection and/or being unloved.
This got me thinking about the price we pay for peace with loved ones. Or at our jobs, etc. Swallowing hard, time after time, compromising ourselves, and being out of integrity with what we believe. The effects on the soul, mind & body are incredible. They range from things like IBS, anything inflammatory, to losing one’s mojo where previously it overflowed. How did we manage to get away from being comfortable with being uncomfortable? Risking it all to be clear, to obtain a peace where everyone benefits. Where we stand in our truths, and are clear about where we are. We have identified the deal breakers and are okay with walking away.
I’m finding this too valuable and essential to my relationships to not speak my truth. I want to emphasize that it’s “my truth.” We must allow for the other not being in agreement. Allow space for it to become undone, if we are not on the same page. This often is our fear—of being unloved, of things falling apart. On the flip side, I have counted the cost of not standing in my truth, and it’s not worth it.
To be in a space of clear communication and intention requires us to be in clarity. Now don’t get me wrong, this is a practice after a life of conditioning.When you have uttered these words, “I have been dancing on glass far too long,” “I am afraid to lose or to be disapproving,”—this is far too expensive!
There is no quick fix, except to live in observation and practice being comfortable with being uncomfortable. Speaking your truth, and honoring differences without resentment. And sometimes the ultimate is needful and that is entire release because there are toxic games at hand.
Share of a time recently that you either found yourself tiptoeing again. Or stood up and risked speaking your truth.
